What To Do If Potty Training is Not Working?
Katy Huie Harrison
Katy Huie Harrison, PhD is an author, mom, and owner of Undefining Motherhood. She writes about women's health and lifestyle issues ranging from infertility and miscarriage to postpartum mental health to everyday parenting. She has been featured on CNN's Headline News, the 2019 book Motherhood and Social Exclusion, and various podcasts, websites, and magazines.
Close attentionAs a mom who recently gave up on potty training when it wasn't working, the best advice I can offer is to pay extremely close attention to your child and their physical and emotional cues.
Ask yourself questions like:
- Where is potty training going wrong?
- What physical cues is my child exhibiting about how they're feeling during this process? (Are their shoulders higher as if they're tense? Is their stomach tight as if they're holding their bladder?)
- How is my child behaving in comparison to normal?
It became clear to us that our son simply wasn't ready, despite having exhibited readiness signs. I'm a competent adult, and I trust myself to evaluate my child's emotional state and know if what we're doing is healthy for him. At that time, potty training was not. You have the same ability, and despite what the books tell you, give yourself grace and trust that you know your child.
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